In my vagueness

Arguments are the furnace in the heat of which Pure Truth is smelted out from raw talks.


When a man is struggling...
Often i have enquired myself on various intriguing behaviours that i myself display, or i see in others. even with all our wisdom, the great repository of knowledge that we maintain. in our struggling chore we all end up acting in a manner contrary to what we would ever imagine ourselves to be.1. sometimes we get insulting towards others in order not to accept what others are suggesting-to/imposing-on us.2. sometimes we take the talks into the realms of strangeness, or sometimes maybe into intense questioning in our fight to prove ourselves.3. then, we tend to make things a prestige issue or an ego-point when we feel confronted by somebody a deemed junior.4. we also tend to become 'preachy' to people whom we think to be inferior or 'junior' to ourselves,in a manner by telling our experiences as some consequence of nature's design.
Arguments are the furnace in the heat of which pure truth is smelted out from raw talks.



Introductions
Introduction plays an important role in creating liking/disliking for something.How u are introduced often ends up making the basis of your choice n outlook towards it. that's how presentation matters. the role of a teacher in school is very important in this regard. How he introduces the topic to his students, how well he connects those topics to the contagious environ of them, all of these count in creation of and sustaining of interest in the topic. Storey-telling thus transforms into an art, to be practised better by its own experts. Like making a movie, or managing a big company, for commanding a unit of soldiers. what krishna did with arjuna in the battle of mahabharat was nothing but a finesse of story-telling which we today call as Gita, just another form of so-much in-demand nowadays---the good communication skills. Men, by nature, like to have queries, and more queries. When one query is solved, another comes up from the answers to the previous queries. A good Krishna will aim to settle a humble and agreeing answers to the prevailing queries so that the next query may be laid to rest for time being. that's why gita doesn't get solution of every query to all individuals. Gita was to arjuna alone, from Krishna , specific, an for that times of the Battle. while each of us Arjuna would want our own Krishna for our own queries. The job of a good teacher, or a good presenter is to settle out the same.never try to settle a query by telling a farce rule-of-life as an explanation for it.things don't happen by whims of somebody. there are immediate causes for every action. Distant causes and immediate causes are two distinct issues.Like i find it hard to digest that Rahul raj, the unfortunate bihari youth had taken up gun, by listening to that inflammatory speeches of Raj Thackery. it my have a distant cause, but not the immediate cause, to explain why only rahul, of all the thousands of unemployed youths from bihar.
the opinionated minds take longer to find peace from their queries. the more we know, the more we query.ignorant minds are easy to appease.
in the context of relationship, enormous opinions tend to do bigger damages. therefore we see so large the failed relationships of educated people, even that of Einstein and Newton. Ignorance helps at this front. Ignorance is not all that bad.It is so difficult to find a right groom for a well-educated , high placed girl. A slight amiss, and the chances of breakup are high.

Lately i saw this movie, DIL DOSTI ETC. The story is in the background of our big metropolitan state.. N Delhi. The eternity of Confusion flows as the undercurrent of the whole movie...the protagonist himself standing confused- for always-- about what happened, how it happened, why it happened.! well that's the greatest truth that the movie tells its viewers. also coated up with the previous theme is the eternity of confusion-in-love, well-scripted in the movie.
Cities like delhi seem to be becoming the epicenters of Materialism and Lust. The big shopping malls, the fast and sleek cars, the smooth roads, the night life --all are lying somewhere in between the truth and false. So much is the confusion that Love from Lust cannot be differentiated, nor can the philosophy of honest life from a developed life. Honesty and truth bring development or is it the Instant-necessities? True love-- is false, or that everything is time-defined! (i have foregone the word Opportunism.)What is the real thing is an all-pervading confusion of this city? Delhi is caught midway between the Aristotelian west and the Buddhist India. and then she is constantly circling around its own tail to catch anything that can get grabbed in its mouth! the youth is so happy-in-life(no,not distracted) and need-driven(no,not Confused) that it's so movie-like-excitement(no, not Difficult-to-understand) to see what is happening in their life.
If WELCOME TO SAJJANPUR tells, in the story, how a young rural woman of eastern UP is married to a dog to get rid of her jinx, then DIL DOSTI ETC shows of how a young urban woman of Delhi is herself a bitch sleeping around with any man who comes in her way!
The eastern Buddhist philosophy talks of things like self-control, self-deprivations etc. while the Aristotelian West talks of True-or-False only its chief decision replies. Neither is bad, but in course of time both of these had suffered aberrations to result into something an eternal confusion. the characteristic of youth is to question itself about the purpose of life. and the diverse approaches result in the two divulgent youth i met in two capital cities of these two philosophies-- varanasi and delhi. My cousin from Varanasi is delving deep into the whole and absolute truth of Gita that he doesn't believe in anything else, while my delhi friends are so confused to scoff at adopting any principles for leading a life !!
True love to me is a phenomenon well-existent in human society. Sometime back there was an argument with my friend's wife about the belief of human society in the institution of marriage. The varanasi gal was adamant that there is true love, as though lust is something devilish and sinful. i was arguing from anthropological standpoint as to what is love in first place. Is man actually a monogamous animal? or, is there really anything truthfully monogamy that we indians have put in place. i argued there is nothing so severely monogamous among human beings as what we indians call as 'only yours for life'( and for seven lives after-on). No animal is monogamous from its whole life point of view. But yes some of them are monogamous, for the time duration when they are in relationship with another animal. The Ram-Chandraji-kind of one-woman-man--for-life is an imposed proposition, we should understand. Perhaps humans are also time-bound-monogamous species only.
The confused delhi has gone into believing that there is nothing like true love, while the rural varanasi has rejected the truth of monogamy-under time frame.
There we see the confusion so much at large. the Aristotelian west perhaps better understands the truth, and thus agrees of monogamy under time constraints, Over there, we see people getting married without caring much for each other's past, and even getting divorced without bothering about its implications on life and children!!Delhi and India has yet to come of age in this regard,.
However the problem that will surface then would be about how the belligerency of youth would be handled should india go Aristotelian, where parents would join and unite so frequently.!?
Or should I live life the way it has been culturally passed on to me! i would prefer that for my answer for time being.